I’m a big fan of the television show, Sell This House – Extreme. The premise of the show is to help desperate homeowners sell their difficult-to-sell spaces through extreme renovation and home staging.
During a recent episode, they were tearing down drywall in one of the rooms when they made an unexpected discovery. Termites. While the damage was extensive, it would have gone unnoticed if the walls had never come down.
This scenario can be applied to life. How many times does someone come across as the perfect husband or the perfect wife, or always seem to be perfectly dressed, perfectly mannered, or perfected presented, yet one day the walls come down and we find out they have termites, so to speak? Maybe it’s even been true of you.
Termites can be issues such as insecurity, anxiety, greed, anger, bitterness, hatred, jealousy, impatience, addictions, compulsions, and/or obsessions, to name a few. It starts out as just one or two termites but, before you know it, you’re completely infested. Termites always multiply.
People with termites generally like to keep it a secret… perhaps just focus on making a few cosmetic changes and, for whatever reason, ignore what’s happening beneath the surface. But, you can have the nicest home and furnishings, the most successful business or career, any cosmetic procedure that makes you look younger or prettier or more handsome, or you can publicly say or do all the right things, but it won’t do a thing to get rid of the termites in your life. Just like painting the walls of your house won’t do a thing to get rid of termites. The walls first have to come down. You can either choose to initiate the process or it will happen one day when you least expect it.
It’s inevitable. Whether it’s in your house or in your life, you ignore termites at your own peril.
The first step in getting rid of termites is acknowledging you have them. You can’t change what you don’t acknowledge. If they’re in your house, seek professional help. The same is true if you have an addiction, compulsion and/or obsession. If it’s a lesser issue, it’s still critical that you bring it into the light. Whether it’s a trusted friend, your doctor, your pastor, or an accountability partner, it’s important to tell someone. Termites are harder to get rid of than you think, so you’ll need all the help you can get.
I’m a big believer in praying. And in counselling. Counselling can help us gain perspective from a trained but neutral person before a minor infestation mushrooms into a full blown invasion. I’d rather drop a bomb on my termites, to be on the safe side, than to wake up one day and wish I’d done a whole lot more a whole lot sooner. I want my house to be sound from the inside out.
I hope I haven’t bugged you with this post but, if I have, it might be time to do a self-evaluation for termites. After all, if you don’t have them, they can’t bug you.